\n\nMen are taught repeatedly that what women want are gestures of investment, commitment, and love.\u00c2\u00a0 Give her flowers, buy her an expensive dinner, write her a love letter, etc.
\nIn fact these are things women want, but they don\u00e2\u0080\u0099t want them from just any man.\u00c2\u00a0 They want them from a man they are attracted to.\u00c2\u00a0 If you think about women\u00e2\u0080\u0099s fantasies as represented in romance novels, etc. you will see that women don\u00e2\u0080\u0099t fantasize about having a bevy of ordinary men falling over themselves to give her the most thoughtful gift.\u00c2\u00a0 Women fantasize about winning the heart of the dashing hero, and ultimately having him acknowledge this with tokens of his investment, commitment, and love.\u00c2\u00a0 These tokens give her comfort that she isn\u00e2\u0080\u0099t hopelessly pursuing an unavailable man.\u00c2\u00a0 She wants him to feel too good to be true, but she also wants some reassurance that she isn\u00e2\u0080\u0099t just being conned.
\nWhat men are being taught is to skip the hero part and go straight to the expression of love.\u00c2\u00a0 They are taught to offer comfort as a way to build attraction, instead of building attraction first and then offering comfort.\u00c2\u00a0 It is no wonder that this not only doesn\u00e2\u0080\u0099t work, but often fails spectacularly.
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\nWomen wanting a man to lead them is counterintuitive given that we live in a fully feminist age. But there is a difference between what women say and think they want in a man, and what their subconscious wants. Ignore the fundamentals of human psychology at your peril.
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Emphasis mine. Read the whole thing. Via Romance 101: How to stop frustrating your wife. | Dalrock.
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