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    "title": "What The Nice Guy Means By \"Nice\" -- Hint: It's Not \"I'm Entitled To Sex\"",
    "author": "pmjones",
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            "relId": "women",
            "title": "Women",
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    "created": "2014-09-28 19:54:04 UTC",
    "updated": [
        "2014-09-28 19:54:04 UTC"
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    "html": "<blockquote>\n<p>I had a patient, let\u00e2\u0080\u0099s call him \u00e2\u0080\u0098Henry\u00e2\u0080\u0099, who came to hospital after being picked up for police for beating up his fifth wife.</p>\n<p>\u00e2\u0080\u009cAnd why, exactly, were you beating your wife this time?\u00e2\u0080\u009d I asked.</p>\n<p>\u00e2\u0080\u009cShe was yelling at me, because I was cheating on her with one of my exes.\u00e2\u0080\u009d</p>\n<p>\u00e2\u0080\u009cWith your ex-wife? One of the ones you beat up?\u00e2\u0080\u009d</p>\n<p>\u00e2\u0080\u009cYeah.\u00e2\u0080\u009d</p>\n<p>\u00e2\u0080\u009cSo you beat up your wife, she left you, you married someone else, and then she came back and had an affair on the side with you?\u00e2\u0080\u009d I asked him.</p>\n<p>\u00e2\u0080\u009cYeah,\u00e2\u0080\u009d said Henry.</p>\n<p>* * *</p>\n<p>When I was younger \u00e2\u0080\u0093 and I mean from teeanger hood all the way until about three years ago \u00e2\u0080\u0093 I was a nice guy. In fact, I\u00e2\u0080\u0099m still a nice guy at heart, I just happen to mysteriously have picked up girlfriends. And I said the same thing as every other nice guy, which is \u00e2\u0080\u009cI am a nice guy, how come girls don\u00e2\u0080\u0099t like me?\u00e2\u0080\u009d</p>\n<p>There seems to be some confusion about this, so let me explain what it means, to everyone, for all time.</p>\n<p>It does not mean \u00e2\u0080\u009cI am nice in some important cosmic sense, therefore I am entitled to sex with whomever I want.\u00e2\u0080\u009d</p>\n<p>It means: \u00e2\u0080\u009cI am a nicer guy than Henry.\u00e2\u0080\u009d</p>\n<p>I didn\u00e2\u0080\u0099t think I deserved to have the prettiest girl in school prostrate herself at my feet. But I did think I deserved to not be doing worse than Henry.\n</p>\n</blockquote>\n<p>(Edited for succinctness.)</p>\n<p>Bad news, nice guys: what women (especially feminists) *say* they want, is very different from what they *actually* respond to. Don't listen to their words; instead, observe their actions, then organize your life accordingly.</p>\n<p>Via <a href=\"http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/\">Radicalizing the Romanceless | Slate Star Codex</a>.</p>\n"
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